FUN & RECREATION

Having fun in a marriage relationship is absolutely essential to the health of the union. When opportunities to connect are absent in a relationship, a void is left that is often filled with people, places and things that do not contribute to the health of a marriage. Additionally, boredom can set in and suck the life out of an individual and ultimately, a couple.

“Boredom is a creeping disease, both subtle and obvious. The husband and wife may live together, but they’re never stimulated by each other. They eat out together, sleep together, watch TV together, go to the movies together, play golf together, attend church together, entertain friends together or play bridge together. But the truth is, they could do all of those same activities with any of a hundred different people and find it a thousand percent more stimulating.

The bored couple doesn’t hate each other, nor do they love each other. They’re just apathetic. They have no interest in each other. Nothing is new in their relationship. They are trapped in the roles of marriage by obligations.

Living in a boring marriage is like being prisoners unable to escape from a prison camp. They have given up on hope. They watch each other slowly age and gray, knowing they will die in this trapped existence. The more boring the marriage, the greater the vacuum. Sooner or later something will rush in and fill that vacuum. That something – or someone – may cause the marriage to break.

A boring marriage is like putting on extra weight. It happens gradually, but at some point you say, ‘Hey, I’m fat!’ A dull marriage may exist quietly for years, but at some point, one of the partners will finally say, ‘Our marriage stinks.’

In a boring marriage each partner increasingly turns away from his or her mate. They value each other less and less, and their commitment level drops year by year. After a while they have little commitment to the marriage or to each other – only a commitment to the children, the church or the relatives.”

“Incorporating fun, leisure and humor into your existence as a couple will strengthen your unity, whereas too many leisure activities apart from each other will weaken your marriage.” - Conway, Traits of a Lasting Marriage (1991)
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